12 Months of Happiness: Getting Started

by Rhonda Wylie on December 22, 2015

This entry is part 1 of 6 in the series 12 Months of Happiness



The holidays are here and this means the year is drawing nearer to a close. This is the time when so many people either have regrets or are optimistically looking forward to a new year and a fresh start. Perhaps, many of us experience the emotional tug of war of both possibilities. As for me, I am trying to live in the present and look at things that I may regret as lessons learned. Usually, if you look close enough, there’s a lesson to be learned in anything you say or do.

You may be thinking to yourself, well that’s easy for her to say, she didn’t do   <fill in the blank>   .    Well, I just had a birthday last week and turned 52; believe me when I tell you, in 52 years of living, there are many things I wish I could go back and do over. Regardless of your circumstances, the past is and always will be the past. Nothing you can say or do can change it. However, what you can change is your future. For example, if you said something that hurt someone’s feelings, then you can’t go back and unsay it. What you can do is apologize for it and make an effort to never say anything like that again. You learned that some things are better left unsaid. Regardless of whether this person accepts your apology, the past is still the past.

After reflecting on my past, the one thing I truly regret is not choosing to have more happiness in my life. Yes, I said “choosing.” You see, happiness is a choice. You can’t change what other people say or do. Also, in some situations, you can’t change what events may or may not occur (an earthquake would be a good example of this). What you do have control over is how you react to people or circumstances. You can choose to be happy. You may be thinking, “Now that’s just crazy talk. What is this woman talking about?” Let me explain it like this – Each and every moment of the day, we can choose to be happy or not. We can choose to see things in a positive way or focus on the negative. Believe me, sometimes, it’s very hard to find the positive side of things in the midst of turmoil or heartache, but, if you look hard enough, you can.

So, for my New Year’s resolution, and beyond, I am going to choose to have more happiness in my life. What do I mean by this? Happiness is not only a choice, but for some of us, it can be a challenge which requires lots of practice. The law of attraction can be summarized as like attracts like; or positive attracts positive and negative attracts negative. By choosing to have more happiness in my life, I will automatically attract more things into my life that will make me even happier. Believe it or not, it’s a fact -happiness is contagious.

Now after all this babble, what I am proposing to you, and committing to do myself, is to look ahead to 2016 and choose something each month that you will commit to that will make you happy. You can do this hourly, daily, weekly, bi-weekly, monthly or any other way you like. You see, this is your happiness for the taking. I can’t tell you what will make you happy – only you know this. By trying this, you have nothing to lose, but will definitely gain more happiness, as long as you stay committed. For me, the very first thing on my list that I want to do more of is to relax. I tend to get caught up in life’s chaos and I don’t take time to relax as much as I should. Relaxing makes me happy…so here goes…

  1. January 2016 – I am committing to one hour each day to take time to do nothing but relax and do anything that makes me happy. During this 1 hour part of my day, I can’t allow anyone or anything to distract me from having my happy, relaxing time.

Will January be easy for me?  No, anyone who knows me knows I’m a workaholic. What’s the point of working all the time, if you can’t take time to enjoy life along the way.

I am not sharing with you my full year of my happiness plan, because I suspect my focus will change as the year progresses.

As we go along, I will share how my happiness plan is working for me.  Remember, choosing happiness will automatically bring more things into your life to make you happy. You are not limited to the one thing you choose each month; I just thought it would be easier to at least commit to one thing. I don’t know about you, but I have to take baby steps, in order to change. What is your happiness plan? I hope you will share your commitments and experiences with your own happiness. This should be fun! I look forward to reading your comments. Have a blessed and happy day!

Written by Rhonda Wylie

Rhonda Wylie

Rhonda is a self-taught entrepreneur, blogger, and aspiring freelance writer, who is always eager to take on new challenges. She is on a self-improvement mission of cleaning out the negative clutter of her own life so she can become a happier, healthier, and more productive individual. Her hope is to inspire each person to eliminate the negative clutter that’s weighing them down, so we can all live our best life EVER!

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Beth Graves December 22, 2015 at 12:43 PM

Hey, girl! I am with you on this!! I so agree with the relaxing part….I am trying to do that right now….every night I try to take an hour away from social media and color, which is so relaxing! In January , I am going to commit to use part of that hour to start my daily memory journal in my new Hobonichi A6 Techno planner…..


Rhonda Wylie December 22, 2015 at 1:02 PM

Good for you. We can do this!


Richard Luna December 22, 2015 at 2:53 PM

Rhonda, I like your approach to commitment and certainly agree that we make choices that affect us every day. I also agree that the more we discern what makes us happy, and can make those choices, the better the attraction it can make for us to happy influences.

I think along the way though we may occasionally discover that what we thought would make us happy does not in fact do that. But I suggest that at least having made that a part of our experience, we are moving closer to finding what is best for us. The secret then will be to not quit, and to take the next step.


Rhonda Wylie December 23, 2015 at 12:02 PM

Yes, I agree. Thank you for your comments.


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