We all have problems from time to time, right? Some are little problems and some are big problems. Well, how many of you go about trying to solve your problems in a methodical and logical way? Perhaps you are one of those people who throws your hands into the air and makes a mountain out of a mole hill. Whatever the case is, here are 10 tips you may want to try for solving any problem:
1. Identify the Problem . Sometimes, not clearly identifying the problem allows you to live in denial that a problem really exists, or will allow you to believe that it is something that can be put off until another time, when in reality, it needs to be handled sooner, rather than later.
2. Identify the worst possible outcome of the problem and then explore any fears you may have about this. Are your fears realistic? In most cases, the fear is not even a realistic one. If you are anything like me, your mind will play tricks on you and blow it way out of proportion.
3. If the problem requires research, take the time to do thorough research by using the Internet, books, library, experts, or any other means necessary to make sure you are familiar with the subject, Don’t just make assumptions or guesses. Often times when you have finished researching the problem, you will find your fears unfounded and you will become confident there’s a solution to be found.
4. Focus on finding a solution, rather than focusing on the problem. If you go around complaining about the problem over and over, but never do anything about it, then you will stay stuck in that rut and the problem will take on a life of its own. A small problem can become a huge problem by in a short time by focusing on the negative, rather than focusing on finding a positive solution.
5. If necessary, get advice from friends or family, but don’t let them focus on the problem. Make it clear to them that you are trying to find a solution to your problem. If they don’t have a solution but want to simply contribute to your pity party, then move on to someone who can help you focus on the solution.
6. Try to think of more than one solution. Of course it’s our human nature to first try the solution we think will be easiest. The easiest solution is not always the best solution. If our first solution fails, we need to have a backup plan. Speaking of failure, don’t be afraid to fail. In times of failure, there is always a lesson to be learned. Some of the greatest people though out history failed many times before they finally succeeded. There is no shame in failing, but you will surely feel guilty if you want to try something, but are too afraid to even take the first step. Fear is one of the biggest contributors for people being stuck in a rut, or wallowing in their own misery. In a sense, they’ve become comfortable with their new self-imposed victim identity because it’s an easy excuse for why they have not reached their goals. For example, people who like to say, “Well, I came from a broken home, therefore, I didn’t get an education.” They choose this path, rather than saying “I came from a broken home and saw my mother barely make ends meet. This made me determined to get an education so I would have better opportunities in life and not have to struggle, living paycheck to paycheck like my mother did.” This may be a far-fetched idea for some of you, but you get my point, I’m sure. We are all born with certain gifts and abilities, despite our negative circumstances.
7. Write your solutions out on paper and then go through them one by one in your mind. Identify any possible pitfalls. If necessary, scratch off any solutions that cannot possibly work.
8. Put your possible solutions in the order in which you want to try them and then get started. After you have gone through your list of possible solutions and you still have not solved your problem, then start over with step one. In most cases, something else will come to mind, or you’ll think of someone new to help you solve the problem. Perhaps you may even discover a new resource, such as a website or book, that you had not previously discovered.
9. Never give up. Life is too amazing to ever give up on finding solutions to our problems. Remember, life is not about the destination but about the journey. It’s about relationships with people, learning, growing, loving, exploring, discovering; etc. Just realize while you’re solving a problem, you’re challenging yourself and growing. You will always come out on the other side a better person for having survived the journey of working through your problem.
10. Once the problem is solved (and I know you WILL resolve it), then ask yourself what lessons you learned. Ask yourself how you will do things different in the future. What did you discover about yourself, that you did not already know? How can you use this experience to help others?
In conclusion, I want to leave you with these final thoughts:
1. Remember, to every problem, there is usually at least one solution.
2. You are not alone in this world. There is always someone willing to help.
3. Enjoy the process of solving the problem. Don’t be afraid to fail. Know that there is always some good that comes from every difficult situation.
4. Look for the life lessons in every problem and accept the problem. Some problems will go away on their own, but the bigger problems will usually just get bigger each day. Face them head on and pat yourself on the back when you’ve solved the problem.
Good luck! YOU can do it!Google+